Due to the high demand for our 3-day healing trauma workshops, Kim and David are no longer seeing couples or individuals for one on one counseling.
David is accepting new clients interested in Stay or Go Counseling.
If you believe your personal history may be impacting your relationship tendencies, you may want to enroll in our 3-day workshop called Reclaiming Our Power.
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STAY OR GO COUNSELING
Stay or Go Counseling
(Discernment Counseling)
Not sure if you want to stay in your marriage?
Learn more about this service specifically designed for you; we have information
and videos to help you decide if this unique form of therapy is
perfect for you!
and videos to help you decide if this unique form of therapy is
perfect for you!
Stay or Go Counseling, also known as Discernment Counseling, may be the perfect approach for you as a couple if: - One or both of you are questioning the commitment to stay married.
- One or both of you aren’t sure you have the motivation or energy for full-on couples counseling to fix your problems.
Discernment Counseling differs from relationship counseling in these ways: - You are not expected to fix things right now. The goal is to increase clarity and confidence in a direction for the relationship based on a deeper understanding of what's happened in the relationship and each partner's contribution to the problems.
- Discernment Counseling is brief lasting from one to five sessions maximum, with a decision each session whether or not to meet again.
- One or both of you are questioning the commitment to stay married.
- One or both of you aren’t sure you have the motivation or energy for full-on couples counseling to fix your problems.
- You are not expected to fix things right now. The goal is to increase clarity and confidence in a direction for the relationship based on a deeper understanding of what's happened in the relationship and each partner's contribution to the problems.
- Discernment Counseling is brief lasting from one to five sessions maximum, with a decision each session whether or not to meet again.
More about Stay or Go Counseling:
- If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot. Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slowdown, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.
- Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples when one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help--and the other is “leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.
- The counselor will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later.
- The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.
- The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No good guys and bad guys.
- You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with the counselor. Why? Because you are starting out in different places.
- The counselor respects your reasons for divorce while exploring the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.
- The counselor emphasizes the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.
- Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counseling sessions. The first session is usually two hours and subsequent are 1.5 hours.
Discernment Counseling is not Suited for these situations:
- When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce.
- When one spouse is coercing the other to participate.
- When there is danger of domestic violence.
- If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot. Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slowdown, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.
- Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples when one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help--and the other is “leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.
- The counselor will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later.
- The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.
- The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No good guys and bad guys.
- You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with the counselor. Why? Because you are starting out in different places.
- The counselor respects your reasons for divorce while exploring the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.
- The counselor emphasizes the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.
- Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counseling sessions. The first session is usually two hours and subsequent are 1.5 hours.
- When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce.
- When one spouse is coercing the other to participate.
- When there is danger of domestic violence.